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Five Confidence Busters For Junior Tennis Players

"Part One" Patrick J. Cohn

Mental game skills are critical to succeeding in tennis. They build self-confidence, the top tennis players rely on their self-confidence to push through adversity, take risks and continue to work on their game. Self-confidence can also make young athletes feel successful in tennis by helping them overcome doubts.

It’s important to understand what destroys a young tennis athlete’s confidence. Here are some quotes from kids and teens about what undermines their confidence or their belief in their abilities:.

“I take on my team’s errors,” says Kevin, age 13, a baseball, hockey and tennis player. “If someone steals home base, I assume it’s my fault. I’m really hard on myself. I get real down on myself.”

“The major problem is my parents,” says Lauren, a 12-year-old who plays soccer, Lacrosse, basketball and tennis.

“Dad’s cheering embarrasses me. Just before I shoot in soccer, he yells, ‘Pull the trigger!’ It’s so awful.”

“I’m naturally not good at sports,” says Robbie, age 12, who fences. “I don’t have the right body. I’m weak, have no muscles and can barely lift 10 pounds.”

“I wonder if I am going to shoot a good round of golf before I start. I doubt I can stack up to the competition and if I am good enough,” says Erica, age 15.

Generally, young tennis players say they feel more confident when they:

  • Have many successful experiences in practice and games
  • Feel support from friends or family members
  • Attend practices
  • Perform well in practice
  • Have access to good coaches
  • Have access to good equipment
  • Are fit
  • Eat well
  • Are mentally prepared
  • Believe they have strong physical abilities

Tennis kids’ confidence is linked in large part to the kind of “input” they give themselves or receive from coaches, parents, or teammates. It’s also affected by their past performances. Here are tennis kids’ top five confidence killers:

1). Holding high expectations

Tennis kids with high expectations generally experience “all or nothing” thinking. They may tell themselves, “I should not double fault,” an expectation that even pro athletes wouldn’t impose on themselves! When athletes have extremely high expectations, they set themselves up for feeling like they failed.

2). Being a perfectionist

Perfectionists cripple their confidence by expecting to have a perfect match, experience a mistake-free performance or win the match 6-0, 6-0. Such accomplishments are rare in tennis, but perfectionists aim for them. Perfectionists are hard on themselves and criticize their slightest mistakes. They analyze each point in minute detail, focusing on their bad racquet preparation, terrible footwork and horrible shots. They have a hard time enjoying tennis because they’re so determined to perform without making mistakes.

3). Harboring self-doubt

Young tennis athletes who doubt their abilities are often nervous, anxious or fearful. That’s not to say that even top athletes experience doubt at times. Young tennis athletes whose self-doubt hurts their confidence may feel inadequate, unable to perform when others are watching--such as a coach, parent or official- inferior to the competition, or may become hesitant when faced with adversity or opposition. For example they may become nervous when they must win a third set or tiebreak to win the match.

4). Holding on to negative feedback

Some athletes are particularly sensitive to negative feedback from parents or instructors. They hold onto it and it turns into their own negative voice inside their head. They might tell themselves, “Everyone thinks I stink, so I must stink.” They may do this after a coach focuses only on their mistakes, when parents point out only the down side of their performance, or when opponents criticize them.

5). Failing to believe in self

When young tennis players don’t believe in themselves, they question their ability to perform. They ask themselves, “Did I practice hard enough this week?” or other questions. Self-doubt is the most damaging to an athlete’s confidence. For example, some young athletes doubt their ability to execute a backhand down the line but still manage to hit the shot they had intended. Athletes who don’t believe in themselves often have defeatist attitudes and use negative labels to describe themselves such as “I can’t finish off my tennis matches.” They wonder why tennis is worth the effort, since the outcome will likely be failure.

In our next article, I’ll talk about Confidence Busters 6-10.

Dr. Patrick J. Cohn is a mental game coach to nationally-ranked junior tennis players and many professional athletes. Please visit Sports Psychology for Tennis for more tips and articles on tennis psychology.


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